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  Poetry by Julie S. Paschold Human Nature, Horizons, You Have Always Been Here  available now!!! Horizons & Human Nature AVAILABLE IN P...

Thursday, August 24, 2017

Weeds

It is an evening in late June, and I am restless.  E is lazing on the couch, enjoying his immobility and the cacophony on the television; he is soon to be snoring.  I am too agitated to read, and the weather just happens to be beautiful.  So I drive to the local park, where the Cowboy Trail begins, a recreational route that reaches over 300 miles westward to the Nebraska panhandle.  Of course, I mean only to walk a couple of miles; perhaps one mile out and then back again.  I lock everything in the trunk of my car, including my mobile phone, and stuff my car key in the only place a woman can when she has no pocket.
            There aren’t many people on the trail, but most of them are friendly, and smile or say “hi” as we pass each other.  In this small city, people are usually in such a hurry they barely notice others are even around; in the small town where I moved from, we wave at each vehicle and person who crosses our paths.  The reactions of people on this trail prompt a nostalgia for my old neighborhood.  I am soon lost in my own thoughts. 
            I begin studying my surroundings.  I am an agronomist.  I have the responsibility of scouting almost 2,000 acres of crop ground spread over 100 miles for critters, pests, diseases, weeds, dry soil; anything out of the ordinary.  I am trained to observe the nuances in plant growth.  I have just established a herbicide-management plan for various soybean fields, and weeds are on my mind.  I begin identifying the plants along the side of the path.  Giant ragweed.  Lamb’s ear.  Curly doc.  Ditch weed.  I realize I have walked past the first mile, past the wooded area, past the meadow, past the wetlands.  My view expands out to the corn and soybean fields now in my midst.  I’ve walked 3 miles already, and I turn to go back. 
            I think it curious that we value a plant when it is where we want it, and endeavor to extinguish it when it grows out of our boundaries.  We call them weeds.  We pull them, spray them, mow them.  We curse their little leaves when they peek through the soil somewhere we just quite frankly don’t want them to be.  A corn plant in a corn field growing aggressively is a good thing, but put that same plant in a soybean field, and we bring out the corn knife.  An amethyst colored, trumpet shaped flower blossoming on a vine that climbs up a garden wall is a welcome ornament for a horticulturist designing landscaping or someone who wishes to appreciate color and languish on an adjacent bench, but name it morning glory to a farmer and watch it curl around the crops, choking and suffocating his livelihood, and we speak of chemicals and tillage—we want to burn it or rip it out.  Kill it.  Remove it.  Stifle growth. 
            Is it not humankind that makes plants this way?  Nature will create her own soil, leaving the plants to grow as they may, their seeds to wander about and happen to land on fertile earth.  Nature plans for diversity; a prairie has many species growing within.  WE create the weeds.  One kind of a plant was not meant to completely dominate a single area of land.  WE decide plants do not belong wherever they grow, and decide to kill them.  Which is fine for plants.  We need to eat, and we eat what they grow.  We need to cultivate the soil, borrow it from Mother Nature for a while, in order to civilize ourselves and settle down.
            Not so with people. 
            Why do we treat people as weeds?  We categorize each other, create borders and boundaries, group each other and stick to those just like us.  We are fields—a monoculture of fellow “plants” that we grow with.  Anyone different, that doesn’t fit in, we “weed” out.  We chastise them, push them away, encourage them to move on and find their own group.  Our hatred and dissention are our herbicides, the chemicals we use on one another. 
            Variety is scary.  Differences are strange.  Learning how we grow and how “our kind” are taken care of is quite enough, thank you.  Leave those who don’t fit in our mold on the side of the road to fend for themselves already.  Just look at the average high school—jocks with jocks, nerds with nerds, the outcast to cluster with each other, the popular cheerleaders clique only with the chosen ones.  You don’t see the grease monkey dating a model, or a poet languishing over a football player.  The thespian doesn’t join the math club, and the chess club president doesn’t engage in wrestling. 
            What if we were to grow as a prairie does; celebrate that Mother Nature is creative and artistic and easily bored with the same thing?  Let’s mix our bunch grasses and daisies and wildflowers, our strawberry stolons and annuals and biennials and perennials.  See where that takes us.  Why do we need such gated boundaries, such permanent lines in the earth?   This is not to say we need to accept the noxious weeds; the ones that parasitize and dominate and feed on others.  But if we expand our understandings beyond our front doors, start tolerating our differences, appreciating our personal nuances, we night just find a more beautiful world.  Take “weed” out of the human dictionary, and we all can be a part of the landscape. 
            I found in my musings that the corn and soybean fields had turned back into the wetlands, the meadow, the wooded area.  The trail’s ecosystems transitioned well into one another, and I am once again at the trail head.  I have come full circle, as it may; or gone out and come back again.  But perhaps I’m not precisely in the same place I was before.  Perhaps the world has changed, if just that little enough to create a new perspective. 

Julie SE Paschold

August 23, 2017

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Elephants

 "If you saw an elephant, would you take it home?"

I moved out of my huge 5 bedroom house in a small town (only 600 people!!) in which I lived for over 10 years last November (2016). I had a 16 year history with rescuing and owning cats. 

I've been a cat lover since birth. As a child, I would carry cats with me everywhere--even in our kiddie pool! And they kept coming back. To this day, my dad has a meowing cat as my ring tone. They called me the cat whisperer. 

When I got divorced, my kids AND 4 of my cats moved out of the big house. I then rescued 2 more, but these cats basically destroyed my house. My other cats were depressed. One cat was terminally ill. One cat was old and had troubles eating and caring for herself. My chronic illness was rearing its ugly head, and I couldn't keep up with the house, the cats, a full time job I needed to pay my bills, living alone, and living 50 miles away from a good doctor. 

After a near death experience in April 2016, it really started going downhill. In October 2016, I decided to move away from this little town and into a house in a small city 50 miles away, where my doctors AND my boyfriend lived. But to do this, I had to get rid of my cats. The terminally ill one passed away. The elderly one, my original "Pooky", my favorite, is now buried under a flowering tree in the yard of my small town's house. Other cats were sent to a client's farm. One cat, my poor Fizzgig, went to an apartment. For some reason, he still haunts me in my dreams. I tried to find him again, to no avail. 

I am still having trouble with adjusting to all that has happened in my life in the past couple of years. I've lost 3 family members (2 of them the matriarch and patriarch of our family), gotten divorced, my kids moved out of my house, I started dating again, I started working full time for the first time in...well, I don't know how long. My chronic illness caused a near death experience. I moved to another town. Need I go on? 

I'm not asking for sympathy, or a "poor you" reaction. We all go through tough times in our lives, and this is just what has been put on my plate for now. It isn't what happens TO me, it is what I DO when something happens to me. I'm fighting the nightmares and racing thoughts and nausea and headaches and anxiety. I'm in a good place in my life. I have loving people around me. I have a good job. 

But I still haven't fully forgiven myself for letting those cats down. Perhaps it's because domestic animals love unconditionally and are so vulnerable. Perhaps it's because they trusted me and I feel I've abused that trust. Perhaps because I feel like I wasn't a good owner/mama. 

I still have the urge to have a furry someone curl up next to me on my bed and my couch. I was talking to my mom about this feeling, and she asked me, "If you saw an elephant, would you take it home?" Of course not. She asked, "Why not?" Because it is too big, and I can't care for an elephant. She then replied, "Well, next time you want a pet, tell yourself that it is an elephant. Remind yourself that although you have love for animals, you don't have the money or the time or the health to keep one". 

This is true for many things in my life. Not just pets, but social engagements, some friends and relationships, expectations, unrealistic goals. I have to tell them--"You are an elephant. I have to leave you alone. I can't handle you." Things aren't perfect, but they ARE more manageable. If I let my "elephants" go, there is less weight on my back. I can go on. 

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

I love....


  • taking naps with cats
  • coffee, black, either cold or hot (or lukewarm)
  • the smell of rain
  • sleeping
  • one on one time with my children
  • having time to do my creative expressions
  • poetry
  • writing on yellow legal paper
  • camping
  • sitting by a fire
  • drawing with a pencil
  • reusing items for crafting
  • my wavy, curly hair
  • painted toenails
  • a good bra
  • a productive day
  • listening to a variety of  music
  • live performances
  • people who are real
  • being liked
  • being able to remember what I need to remember
  • deep conversations with my husband
  • reading in my big armchair
  • cuddling in a quilt
  • cuddling with my son
  • teaching my daughter about anything
  • the truth
  • knowing what my schedule will be
  • cats
  • frogs
  • catching critters by the pond
  • looking for rocks
  • collecting pieces of the out of doors
  • the creative process
  • cheese
  • the feeling after a good workout
  • taking walks
  • my last name
  • visiting my family farm
  • watching a child discover something
  • liking what I see in the mirror
  • comfortable clothes
  • writing
  • being caught up in my to do list
  • singing (especially alto)
  • being complimented
  • people who accept me as I am
  • feeling secure
  • blue or green eyes
  • a man's strong arms and work worn hands
  • small feet
  • going to the zoo, seeing different animals
  • my husband
  • my daughter
  • my son
  • my family
  • positive feedback

Monday, February 25, 2013

Success v. Satisfaction

Has anyone thought of the difference between success and satisfaction?

Definition of SUCCESS by Webster:
"...Achievement of something intended or desired; attaining wealth, fame, or prosperity."

Definition of SATISFACTION by Webster:
"...Anything which brings about a happy feeling; the fulfillment of a need, appetite, or desire; a source of gratification."

Of course we realize someone can be successful in our society's terms and not be satisfied, or be satisfied with themselves and not be successful in society's terms.

Is the question--whose success?  On whose terms, whose intentions, whose desires are the measurement for success?  If you use what "everyone" thinks, or what you think everyone thinks, aren't we all set up for failure rather than success?  I've found that I can't be and do all I want to, or all that I think others expect of me.  For me, the problem isn't that I'm not successful, it is that I'm using the wrong source of definitions and desires.  How can I assume I know what everyone thinks?  Yet we all have that idea of what "society" expects of us, and I use it to define what results in my success and satisfaction.

I am working on defining my own level of success, and being satisfied with what I have.  It isn't when others are proud of me that I feel satisfaction, it is when I feel good about what I have done and who I am and what I have tried to do.  I will never live up to perfection or what others hold up for me.  I am thankful that the true family and friends I have accept me at my level, not the level of someone who is over the top successful in the eyes of those who look for comfort in finances or materials or number of friends or popularity.

I am who I am, and am learning to be happy about that.  It is not about lowering my expectations, it is about being real about them.  I am not lowering the level of happiness I will achieve, I am changing how I look at the world and my part in it.  Do I want to try to live up to what so many "Joneses" have established as their success?  Are they satisfied with it?  I wouldn't be, and I've made myself crazy, tired, and frustrated trying to do so.

Happiness brings about satisfaction.  Achievement of my own goals will bring about my own success.